I’m trying a lot of new things right now. I’m expanding & sharing regularly with you. It feels like the absolute right path for me. Yet for the past few days I’ve been externally seeking validation.
It creeps up on you. You’re ruminating about what to do next and sharing those ruminations with others. Sometimes it helps, but this time, it feels like no one is really getting it. They’re giving the wrong advice, not fully understanding you, etc. Sound familiar?
For me, it comes back to an attempt to gain permission. Permission and validation that I’m on the right path, that it will all work out, that the energy I’m putting out into the world is worth it. Do you know what snapped me out of it? This quote my therapist shared with me which is sticking on my bathroom mirror:
“What is to come is created in you and from you. Hence look into yourself. Do not compare, do not measure. No other way is like yours. All other ways deceive and tempt you. You must fulfill the way that is in you”
Carl Jung
Wow, right? When I let that sink in yet again this week, I knew what I had to do next. I knew the action I had to take to get the data I was seeking. I knew that my knowledge of the right path was the only knowledge I needed. So, you guessed it, the validation needs to come from you. You are the only person it can come from. Is the unknown still scary? Yep. But knowing the next step I have to take and getting more information is SO powerful.
If you are going down a path no one around you has gone down before – it will feel hard. Understand though, that the thing you are working on is worth it precisely because of that. You are blazing a trail. You are the one who will benefit from the work you are doing. As much as some people around us might love us, they just can’t see it.
